Something I've heard about a lot in the recent past has been long distance relationships. More and more young adults are meeting people online from all over the country and even world and get involved in these long distance relationships. And I have always wondered if these really work; I mean, they can't be that hard right? Wrong. It wasn't until I got into a long distance relationship myself that I really understood the point of it, and how hard it really is. In the past I feel like I have almost taken how close my significant other lived to me for granted. We lived 5 minutes away tops, we saw each other everyday. Now I am lucky if I see my girlfriend once a month, if that. Even though we did not meet online, this has become a very new and different experience for me.
The idea of being in a long distance relationship didn't scare me. I had no problem with wanting to do it because this girl I fell for was kind of a big deal to me. But of course with my luck, we chose to get together right as she went off to school. We are 530 miles apart and thats basically all we know. I mean, I've known this girl for years but from a relationship standpoint, all we know is long distance. And never did I once think about how hard it was going to actually be until I spent that first week without her. It is weird and hard not having the physical interaction. We still text, call, and Skype every single day; but none of it is the same as being in the same room as each other. And that is something I did not think about going into this. I thought everything would be fine because we can still talk all the time with the technology that we have. I know what she does every day and she knows what I do. We tell each other about our days and its like we are together because the distance doesn't let us lose all the information we have about each other and what we do. But, what the distance does do is deprive us from that physical interaction. I cannot tell you how much it means to be with someone right here and now in the moment. It makes a world of a difference to have someone right in front of you, even if you are talking about the same exact things you would over text or even a Skype call. Dealing with this is hard. There are things you can't do over the phone. Like give hugs when they are feeling down, or to just feel that closeness when you need it the most. You can't do those things from 500 miles away. You experience a whole different kind of miss. You not only miss them, you long for them. You crave hearing their voice, and seeing their facial expressions when they talk to. You miss them, but you also miss all the little things that they do that make your day just that much better.
Now, do these long distance relationships work? I just made it seem like they are these terrible things. And yeah, it is not easy. But do they work? From what I have encountered, they are hard, but so worth it in the end if you can make it work. You obviously need trust and communication cause it is so easy to lie from 500 miles away. It is so easy to do whatever you want from that distance and not think about who you have waiting at home. Thats easy to do. I have never been more open with anyone in my life than I am with my girlfriend. She knows me from the inside out. We have no secrets between each other. We trust each other so much; and that is why this works.
Being in this long distance relationship shows me that we are really something. And by that I mean, we truly do love and care for each other. Because if we didn't, all of this would not be worth it. Why would someone choose the hard route for someone they did not care about? It doesn't work that way. If you find someone you really cherish, you would do anything for them and do anything to keep them in your life. And that is why this works for us. You find out very quickly if you are both in it for the right reasons; and we are. There is no doubt in my mind that we will be able to make this work. She's worth it.
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